My maternal uncle and aunt successfully completed their 25 years of married life. I attended their silver jubilee party yesterday and it gave me a lot of insight about marriages. I wish them many more happy years together.
A marriage that lasts for 25 years, Isn’t this an achievement?
May be this wouldn't have sounded great 25 years ago. My parents spent more than that, probably there will be many in their generation. But now, this thought amuses me for several reasons.
Recently an acquaintance told me “we have a marriage deal for 3 years, let’s see if it works for 3 years. If it does not work, we will part ways”. Even before they could get married, they decided on the time frame of how long their marriage would last.
In recent times, I don’t see many marriages lasting for more than 10 years. I’ve seen marriages falling between 1 to 10 years. Is it that difficult to maintain the relationships? How did our elders managed to keep up the relation for so long?
No relationship is perfect; we need to make some adjustments and compromises to keep them going. After spending almost 4 years in the marital bliss, these are my thoughts for a good togetherness:
- Respect each other’s time and values.
- Give individual spaces (My space, your space and our space).
- Speak up: Never keep things for yourselves, voice out your opinions, tell them if you don’t like something. Ensure you say that at the right time.
- Follow forget and forgive policy. Don’t nag about the past.
- Keep your ego away and be open to ask for forgiveness.
- Stop being demanding and understand each other’s needs.
- Marriage is not about two individuals; it comes with a package of two families, accept them wholeheartedly.
- Don’t take each others for granted. Make them feel special.
- Spend quality time together (vacations, game, shopping, gymming etc).
- Be true to your partners. Do not cheat at their backs.
- Live up with all the promises that you made when you got married.
- Don't let your relationship fade away; add life to it.
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